What can we do to prevent rapes and criminal behaviour?

Today, i saw a profoundly disturbing video clip. Two men raped a girl, shot a video and now are on the run. This very short clip from that video is  released by Sunitha Krishnan in youtube with the intention to identify the rapists. The victims face is blurred but the rapists faces are clear. See it for yourself.. But be warned that this can trigger a lot of raw emotions in you.

After seeing this video, i felt enraged. I thought these are animals who don't deserve a life on this planet. I thought of ways in which these bastards can be killed.I thought they should be killed in public. They should die in so much pain and agony that no one should ever think of repeating such an act. I thought we should all stone these bastards to death or set them on fire alive. O my god! At that point i realized what kind of monster i had turned into. How am i any different from the stone age men if can't control and think through my emotions?

So, i took some time and  thought through what i saw. I also thought about many many such incidents that had surfaced in recent times .A few important points came to my mind and i am sharing them here.First some significant things in this video.

• The rape was committed by two men together. They feel no shame at all in front of each other.
• They also shot a video of the act. They had no fear of consequences.
• They did it in broad day light and they felt very safe doing it.
• The girl begs and they don't show any empathy.
• The man in the video is smiling.

To some extent, the first three points can be attributed to the law and order enforcement problems existing in this country.But the last two points are clear reflections of the nature of our civil society. The man in the video is not only doing a horrendous act but he is visibly enjoying it. This is not normal even in the realms of criminal behavior. This is a pathological behavior which arises from deep seated psychological problems. Also it does not arise in a person all of a sudden. What that means is, he did get up from the bed that morning and decided to became a rapist. It is a result of years and years of unchecked misbehavior.  His misbehavior would have started long time back, as small bad acts like eve teasing and cat calling.But no one told him and convinced him that they were wrong. In other words there was no one in his life to teach him good morality and the reasons for being moral. His parents, teachers, elders in family and the society around him did not educate him about bad behaviors from a very young age. He has failed as a human and his failure is a symptom of carelessness and screwed up priorities of our society.

His act of rape is only an end result of series of continuous bad behaviors. At this end point when he kidnapped the girl, he is a already a gone case.There is no practical hope for reformation for him now. This is because the criminal behavior is already hard wired in his brain now. Also, no amount of harsh punishments is now going to help because people like him started walking this path at a very very young age. He did not start by thinking that he is going to rape a girl one day. What could have pulled him to the right path is early intervention and a healthy family. That could have saved his life and in turn saved the life of the poor girl. That is what we should be doing if we are serious about preventing these horrible crimes.

We, as the members of this society should be educating our children about good and bad behavior. We spend a lot of time worrying that our children are not eating well. We are always worried that they are attacked by germs all the time and they are not scoring good marks. Instead, we should be worrying about their behavior more often. That does not mean we should start beating them for every wrong doing. That would only result in the same thing. Instead of punishing, we should be teaching them the consequences of their actions and how their mistakes can hurt others. It is ok, if they don't become doctors or engineers at-least they wont become rapists and murderers.